New Nikahs and the Quest for Blessings - Part Two
Firstly, the copious sums of money often at the expense of borrowing on interest are completely against the very essence of Shari'ah. Even a cursory study of the life of Nabi Sallallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam and the Sahaaba Radhiyallahu Anhum will convince one of the fact that Nikah is not an occasion when the Shari'ah encourages or even tolerates spending greatly. Nabi Sallallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam in essence advised us that the more you spend, the less Barakah and reward you will get; Consider his words: "That Nikah receives the most Barakah (Blessings and Acceptance) where the least expense in incurred." (Mishkat)
One need not comment on the folly of those who say: "It is my only child and I must make this wedding something to remember. No expense will be spared. Molvi Saheb make Dua that Allah gives Barakah." Such a request for Dua is tantamount to standing in a downpour and asking the Moulana Saheb to make Dua that you don't get wet.
Then we have to have the appropriate music or musical ‘nasheeds’ to create the perfect ambience, the bride must be paraded in her full beauty for all and sundry and not forgetting the professional photographers to capture this once in a lifetime moment.
We often hear of the marriages of Fathima Radhiyallahu Anha and Aaisha Radhiyallahu Anha. Our hearts are softened and we are taken aback by the beauty and simplicity of these marriages. Yet when the opportunity comes for us to emulate their marriages we opt for something that goes against their very grain.
If we wish to travel to the north it would be folly for us to travel on the road leading south. May Allah Ta'ala open our eyes to the reality and save us from the Fitnas of the past, Aameen.