Thursday, June 19, 2008

Don't Get Too Attached

When I describe it, you'll be able to visualize it. I'm certainly not the first person who has observed it. But there is a lesson in it we both may have overlooked. There are some children on a beach. They're playing at the edge of the water. Giggling. Building sand castles. They seem so intent on the project. You get amused at how meticulous and careful they are with crumbly corners and tiny turrets. The looks on their faces as they screw their mouths around and stick out their tongues in earnest concentration are priceless. Then a big wave starts to close in! But the kids don't panic. They do the strangest thing. They jump to their feet, scream with excitement, and watch the waves wash away their creations. There is no hysteria. No sadness. No bitterness. Even little children know the fate that awaits sandcastles. So they are neither shocked nor angry when the tide comes in.

You and I should be so wise. The stuff of this world is about as permanent as sandcastles on a beach. Yet we get so caught up in it, defensive over it, and depressed over the loss of it. But Allah (swt) didn't create you for this world. Your destiny is not bound up in cash and bonds, land and houses, monuments and fame. Living to be a hundred years old is far less important than living well - Even if for a relatively short time. Beautifying your body is not nearly as urgent as living with a pure heart before Allah (swt).

Children know that their castles in the sand are brief joys destined to be taken away by an incoming tide. So they don't fret as the waves approach. They typically watch their creations get swept away without shedding tears.Everything about this life is so transient. The incoming wave of our mortality is going to sweep it all away.

Like sandcastles at the edge of the ocean, nothing we do for the sake of this world can survive. Only what you do here for eternity will last. Only the treasures you send ahead will escape corruption.What would the loss of your job or business do to you? What if your house were to go up in smoke tonight? What if a pain sent you to the doctor and led to the discovery that you have only a few weeks to live? These things really do happen to people, you know. We are all vulnerable. We are all quite mortal. Everything about our existence here is about as enduring as sandcastles.Life is Allah (swt)'s gift. Revel in every good thing. Enjoy your castles in the sand. Just be careful not to let yourself get unduly attached to any of them


The Organ Harvester said...

if only people were sand castles.


Ja, we are too attached to things. Like when you have an accident in someone's car and the first thing they ask about is the damage to their car.

Sorry for living hey.

Princess said...

A few months back on the way home from work, we got caught in a cross fire...when I reached home all shaken up and white as a sheet - I relate my story to the in-laws.......all they could think of asking was is the car okay...

I mean come of it - I could have been killed had it not been for the concerned citizen who shot the guy dead right in front of us. Whislt I cried they said at leat the car is okay!

My think was WTF - it could have been me - all that matters the worldy things? Strange how people think.

bb_aisha said...

the weaker our characters, the more we rely on possessions as props

one of my mum's sisters was always filled with pride. & i'd always think 'pride comes before a fall'.

Her family has been through alot in the past few years, and while the wealth is still a prop she stands behind to 'stand high' in society, t's not an indefensible shield.

It's sad that she had to endure pain in this way, but alham, her pride is disappearing. She admitted so herself.

& for most people, it's only when we incur loss that we see the greater picture

ps: i enjoy reading your posts

Princess said...

BB Aisha - pride is the ultimate downfall & when you have pride you are blinded to the truth - so you end up living this stupid, sick fantasy...but the fall is a great one and indeed they realise eventually but its too late than.

Jazakallah for saying so!!

The Organ Harvester said...

I think people in general are changing, we are no longer concerned with collecting as much as we used to. I think younger people are starting to realise the futility of just owning things for the sake of, that things dont make you happy. That we can be spiritual just by doing.

Princess your inlaws sound special. DOnt stress over them, eventually they will come around. Always maintain your dignity and respect and never give them an opportunity to "be right" about you. You know what I am saying?

Princess said...

Yeah OH they special in their own way and world. I respect them and never back answer them for they are my elders. I do what I have to do as a dutiful daughter-in-law. If it pleases my husband and Allah (Swt) than I am gaining favour somehow.

Jazakallah for your comments, always appreciated