Tuesday, September 12, 2017

A Letter from Rohingya


MYANMAR - A Letter from Rohingya
 
 
 

More than 270,000 Rohingyans, a large percentage of them women and children, have fled Myanmar in the last two weeks[Mohammad Ponir Hossain/Reuters]
 

A resident of Myanmar's Rakhine State discusses daily life and the abuses and attacks Rohingyans endure.
 
 
 
“For all my life, all 24 years of it, I've been a prisoner in this open air jail you know as Rakhine State. I was born in Myanmar, as were my parents, but my citizenship was snatched away before I was even conceived. We're facing extinction, and unless the international community stands with us, one of the most persecuted people in the world, we will face genocide and you, you will all be a party to it.
 

My movement, education, access to healthcare and career have been heavily restricted because of my ethnicity. I'm banned from working in the government, denied the right to pursue higher education, barred from visiting the capital, Yangon, and even stopped from leaving northern Rakhine State. I'm subjected to the worst form of discrimination, all because I'm a Rohingyan Muslim.
 
 
For years, my people, who have been denied their most basic rights, are killed on a near daily basis. Shot dead in plain sight, forcibly and systematically made homeless, our homes razed in front of our very eyes; we're the victims of a brutal state.
 
 
For you to fully appreciate what our conditions are like, I'm going to use an analogy: imagine a mouse stuck in a cage with a hungry cat. That's what it's like for the Rohingyans. Our only method of survival is to run, or hope someone helps us get out.
 
 
For those of us that have remained, there's a systematic campaign to separate us from the wider Rakhine community. We're called "Kalar" [a slur often used against Muslims] by Buddhists to our faces. Whether you're a child or an old man, no one escapes the abuse. We face discrimination at schools and at hospitals, and there's been a boycott campaign by Buddhists to avoid us at all costs.
 
 
"Only buy from Buddhists," they say. "If you give a penny to a Buddhist, they'll help build a Pagoda (temple), but if you give a penny to a Muslim, they'll build a mosque." These kinds of comments, they've become the norm and helped encourage Buddhist extremists to attack us.
 
 
When Aung San Suu Kyi, a Noble Peace Prize winner, won parliamentary elections in 2015 and ended half a century of dominance by the military, we had high hopes change was coming. We were confident that this woman, hailed as a beacon of democracy, would end our abuse and oppression. Sadly, it soon became clear that not only would she not be our voice, she would ignore our suffering. Her silence showed she was complicit in the violence.
 
 
In the end, she failed us; our last hope, failed us.
 
 
In 2012, a huge number of the Rohingya were slaughtered in one of the worst bouts of communal violence. Around 140,000 were internally displaced, an event that would repeat itself in 2016. Shot, slaughtered, and burned alive in front of their families, the violence last October would give rise to the Arakan Rohingya Salvation Army (ARSA), a small group of men who decided to defend themselves and fight back. Armed with just sticks and stones, they knew they couldn't fend off the well-equipped Myanmar army but they tried nonetheless.
 
 
Still, now our sisters and mothers are forced to give birth in paddy fields as we run for our lives in this violence that you say is between two equal sides. It is not. Children being shot at as they flee and women's bodies floating in rivers is not an equal fight.
 
 
We're facing extinction, and unless the international community stands with us, one of the most persecuted people in the world, we will face genocide and you, you will all be a witness to it.
 
 
The author of this letter has requested anonymity due to fear of attacks from the government.
 
He spoke to Al Jazeera's Faisal Edroos. 
 
The plight of the Rohingyan Muslims has reached critical levels. Our URGENT appeal is to assist in providing aid to the refugees fleeing persecution. Kindly assist our Rohingyan brethren in their desperate hour of need. Jazakallah Khayr! 



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Thursday, June 22, 2017

Dua'a

There is nothing more beautiful than bowing down at the end of a long day of fasting to ask Allah for our hearts halaal desires. Remember as well that dua'a at the time of breaking fast is accepted so don't be shy to make dua'a.
Below listed are a few essential things that one should ask for in dua'a. Remember to add you own things to the list and to share with your loved ones for their benefit:
Ask Allah:
*For guidance (hidayah) and to be kept on the straight path, to be among those whom Allah has chosen to guide and not those who go astray
*To make our hearts open to guidance
*To keep the flame of imaan burning in our hearts always
*To put in our hearts a love of doing good and an abhorrence of sinning
*For forgiveness for our sins and the strength to stay away from those sins in future
*For acceptance of whatever little good we do
*For protection from all types of harm (Physical, spiritual, emotional, monetary, safe from the harms of insects, animals, man, jinn etc.)
*To be kept in good health
*For Allah to never make us dependent on others
*A good death with dignity imaan
*To be taken away in a state in which Allah is pleased with us
*For Allah to ease the pangs of death for us
*Ease from the time our souls are taken away, to the time our bodies are given a ghusl to the time we are lowered into our qabrs
*Good neighbours in the qabr
*Help in answering questioning of the qabr with ease
*Being saved from punishment in the qabr and for our qabrs to be illuminated with noor from Jannah and for our qabrs to be beautiful gardens of Jannah
*To be resurrected with imaan
*To be granted shade under Allah’s Arsh (throne)
*To not drown in our own sweat and blood when the sun is just above our heads
*For the day of resurrection to pass by quickly for us
*For our good deeds to outweigh our bad deeds and for it to be such that no one is able to lay claim to our good deeds nor are they able to give us their bad deeds
*For ease in crossing the siraats
*For entry into Jannah and to be saved from Jahannum
*For help for our Muslim brothers and sisters in war torn countries (Syria, Palestine, Burma, Afghanistan, Egypt, China, Iraq and wherever else in the world they may be facing persecution)
*For help for all those that were taken as prisoners unlawfully such as Dr. Aafiya Siddiqi and all the other thousands of nameless and faceless ones that we may not know about
*For ease for our deceased family members in their qabrs
*For good for our loved ones
*Any other halaal desire that we may have (though it is best to ask for that which is best for us for Allah knows things that we do not)
*Any other good thing that we may have to ask for, for others e.g. A person we personally know in need, a family member going through a difficult time etc.
Add your own things to the list, ask for halaal things and make dua'a for others. The angels will say “Aameen and it is for you as well”.

Friday, June 09, 2017

Keeping the tongue moist with Dhikr

Dhikr to recited in Ramadaan (and any other time of the year) 
Below listed are a few things that one can read in Ramadaan (and any other time of the year) to gain reward. Copy, save and share with your dear ones so that they may benefit from it too. Add your own things to the lists as well.

Dhikr/things to recite:
1. Allahu Akbar (Allah is the greatest)
2. Alhamdulillah (All praise be to Allah)
3. Subhanallah (Glory be to Allah)
4. Astagfirullah
5. Subhanallahi wa bihamdihi Subhanallahil Azeem
6. Kalimah tayyibah (first kalimah)
7. Durood shareef
8. Laa hawla wa laa quwata illah billah
9. SubhanAllahi Wa bihamdihi, ‘adada khalqihi, wa ridaa nafsihi, wa zinatah ‘arshihi, wa midada kalimatihi
10. Allahumma innaka afuwan tuhibbul afwa fa’fu anni
11. Allaahmma anta rabbee laa elaaha illaa Anta khalaqtanee wa ana ‘abduka wa ana ‘alaa ‘ahdika wa wa’dika mastata’tu. A’oothu bika min sharri ma sana’tu. Aboo’u laka bi ni’matika alayya wa aboo’u laka bi thambee. Faghfir lee. Fa innahoo laa yaghfiruth-thunooba illaa anta
12. Rabbana aatina fid dunya hasanato
13. Surah ikhlaas (Qul huwallahu Ahad)
14. Surah Zil Zaal (Izaa zul zila)
15. Surah Kaafiroon (Qul yaa ayyuhal kaafiroon)
16. Surah Qadr (inna anzal na hu Fi laylatil qadr)
Significance of reciting the above:
1-3. Allah showers his mercy on the one who makes dhikr and the angels make dua for him/her. Allah blesses the one who makes dhikr with guidance and understanding of deen. Allah will greet those who made dhikr with the words ‘As salaamu alaikum’ on the day that we meet Him. (Surah Ahzab)
4. “If anyone constantly seeks pardon (from Allah), Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from where he expects not.” [Abu Dawud].
5. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon him) said, “There are two statements that are light for the tongue to remember, heavy in the Scales and are dear to the Merciful: `Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi, Subhan-Allahil-Azim [Glory be to Allah and His is the praise, (and) Allah, the Greatest is free from imperfection)’.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
6. The words that profess the Oneness of Allah and the words that need to be on our tongue when we breathe our last.
7. The Holy Prophet said that: “Whoever from my ummah sends durood on me once ten good deeds are recorded on his behalf, his ten (minor) sins are pardoned and he is elevated by ten stages” (Sunan Nisai and Musnad Ahmed, AI-targhib li al Mundhari)
8. Hadhrat Abu Dharr narrated that Rasulallah said: “Should I not tell you of one treasure of the unlimited treasures of Paradise?” I replied spontaneously “Oh Rasulallah (Peace be upon him) that would be an honour indeed!” Rasulallah said: “That rare treasure is LA HAWLA WA LA QUWWATA ILLA BILLAH.” (“The strength to do good and to refrain from evil comes from the grace and mercy of Allah!”) -(Ibn Majah)
9. The Mother of the Believers, Juwairiyah bint Al-Harith reported that, “the Prophet came out from my apartment in the morning as I was busy in performing the dawn prayer. He came back in the forenoon and found me sitting there. The Prophet said, ”Are you still in the same position as I left you.” I replied in the affirmative. Thereupon the Prophet said, “I recited four phrases three times after I had left you. If these are to be weighed against all you have recited since morning, these will be heavier. These are: Subhan-Allah Wa bihamdihi, ‘adada khalqihi, wa rida-a nafsihi, wa zinatah ‘arshihi, wa midada kalimatihi (Allah is free from imperfection and I begin with His praise, as many times as the number of His creatures, in accordance with His Good Pleasure, equal to the ink that may be used in recording the words (for His Praise).” [Narrated by Muslim]
10. Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported:
I asked: “O Messenger of Allah! If I realize Lailat-ul-Qadr (Night of Decree), what should I supplicate in it?” He (
) replied, “You should supplicate: Allahumma innaka ‘afuwwun, tuhibbul-‘afwa, fa’fu ‘anni (O Allah, You are Most Forgiving, and You love forgiveness; so forgive me).”
[At-Tirmidhi]
11. Shaddad ibn Aws narrated that the Prophet [صلى الله عليه وسلم] said; “the most superior request for forgiveness is to say:
‘Allaahmma anta rabbee laa elaaha illaa ant. Anta khalaqtanee wa ana ‘abduka wa ana ‘alaa ‘ahdika wa wa’dika mastata’t. A’oothu bika min sharri ma sana’t. Aboo’u laka bi ni’matika alayya wa aboo’u laka bi thambee. Faghfir lee. Fa innahoo laa yaghfiruth-thunooba illaa ant.’
[O Allah, You are my Lord. There is no god besides You. You created me and I am Your servant, following your covenant and [my] promise to you as much as I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil that I have done. Before You I acknowledge Your blessings bestowed upon me and I confess my sins to You. So forgive me, for surely no one can forgive sins except You.]
The Prophet [صلى الله عليه وسلم] then added, ‘anyone who says this during the day, firmly believing in it, and dies before the evening; or says it in the evening, firmly believing in it, and dies before the following morning, will be among the people of paradise.’ ”
[Sahih al-Bukhari]
12-14. Abdullah Ibn ‘Abbas and Anas Ibn Malik (Ra) reported that the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said, ‘Whoever recited Surah Zilzilah (99) would get the reward of reciting half the Qur’an. Whoever recited Surah al Kaafirun (109) would get a reward as if reading a quarter of the Qur’an. Whoever recited Surah al Ikhlas (112)would get a reward as if reading one third of the Qur’an’. (At-Tirmidhi 2818/A)
15. The Surah explaining what the night of power is.
* Ladies that are in haidh/nifaas can recite 1-11

Friday, May 26, 2017

A Stark Reality - my wake up call...

They met in Aalamul Arwaah, the realm of souls. Two souls, identical in appearance yet divided by a wide chasm of years and worldly experience. One of them held an unused ticket in his hand; a return ticket to the dunya, the world. The other held an expired ticket; his time in the world having come to an end.
"Where are you off to?" He asked his companion.
"To the dunya. My time there starts in a few days."
"But you do know that you have to return, right?"
"Yes, of course! I know that I have to come back to my Rabb and I will long for the day I return every minute, every day of my life. I know that my journey is temporary and my eternal abode awaits me here. I will try my utmost to fulfill my responsibility in the world so that I can return and enjoy the pleasures contained here once more."
And so, he left. Filled with the promises made to his Rabb, filled with the purpose of his temporary visit into the world, he ventured forth oh-so-confidently.
But alas! He knew not that this world is a place of temptations, of sinful pleasures and a whirlwind of untold delights that would suck him into its vortex, with hardly any way out.
And so he forgot. He forgot the promises made to his Rabb. He forgot the return ticket still tightly clutched in his hand, with its impending date of return getting closer with the slow ticking of the clock.
Or did he forget? I don't think so. I think he merely chose to ignore the glaring fact and bury it deep within the recesses of his mind. Thinking that the saying would prove true in his case; "out of sight, out of mind".
But that's no excuse, is it? For when the final boarding call comes there will be no escaping it. The ticket will have to be presented, the flight will have to be boarded. Are we ready to undertake this journey?

So let us wake up, oh muslimahs. Let us become aware of the existence of our return tickets. We do not know the date imprinted on them but we do know that it could be anytime. So let us prepare for this journey before the clock stops ticking and before our escort arrives to take us to our final destination. Let us pray each salah like it's our last. Let us watch each sunset like it's our last. And let us make the most of this ramadhaan if we reach it because it might be our last....

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Surah Al-Waqiah 56: - (The Imminent Event)

Surah Al-Waqiah 56: - (The Imminent Event) - Part One

With the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Most-Merciful

SPECIAL CHARACTERISTIC OF SURAH AL-WAQIAH: 

Sayyidna Abdullah Ibn Mas'ood's Didactic Story on his Deathbed - lbn Kathir cites a story on the authority of Ibn Asakir from Abu Zabyah that when Sayyidna Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RA was lying on his deathbed, Sayyidna Uthman RA paid him a visit and the following conversation ensued.

Uthman RA: "What are you suffering from?"
Ibn Masood RA: "from my sins."
Uthman RA: "Do you desire anything?"
Ibn Masood RA: "Yes, Allah's mercy."
Uthman RA: "Shall I call a doctor for you?"
Ibn Masood RA: "It is the doctor who has given me the ailment."
Uthman RA: "May I send you an allowance from the public treasury?"
Ibn Masood RA: "I have no need for it."
Uthman RA: "Accept it, . You are leaving daughters behind you. It will help them."
Ibn Masood RA: "You are worried about my daughters that they must not suffer from poverty. I have no such worry, because I have instructed them to recite Surah Al-Waqi'ah every night. I have heard the Messenger of Allah (Peace Be Upon Him) say, “Whoever recites Surah Al-Waqi'ah every night will never suffer from poverty'."

lbn Kathir, after citing this story from Ibn 'Asak.ir, has supported it with other chains of transmitters and other sources.

Thursday, May 04, 2017

Needs VS. Wants

Needs VS. Wants

When we moved to our first house in Bloomington, a few years back, one of our neighbours, a very nice young couple who had a 9/10 year old daughter, knocked our door a week or so after we moved in, holding a home-made cake.

They came to pay us a visit, to say welcome to the neighbourhood.

That was the nicest gesture that made our first experience in an almost all-white American neighbourhood, with its first Muslim family, very pleasant. I do not know if they knew it then, but it is such a refreshing feeling to have people walk up to you with an open-mind and say welcome, we would like to get to know you and who knows, we might become good friends…
Another reason why we thought this family was special was their daughter Kate. She was an only child. One of the nicest, most-caring, intelligent, confident, talented, well-mannered young people I have seen in a long time. Her mother and I used to get together time to time for tea. I was caring for an infant, and juggling motherhood, and she was a talented breastfeeding consultant with a big heart. I remember asking her, as I do unceasingly with parents whose kids strike my attention as being exceptional, what they did that worked so well! I was hungry for any advice, especially from a mother whose parenting skills was proven to have worked so well.
She shared an important parenting tip, which I found genious (though it might seem common-sense once you hear it, most parents never come up with it on their own): teach her the distinction between needs and wants.

We must and will meet all her needs, to the best of our abilities.
But we do not have to and will not fulfill all her wants.

So when she asks for something, a new toy or a candy, we ask her: do you need this or do you just want this? Teach her this is a want as opposed to a need. Then, depending on your family rules on toys/how much candy and when…etc. you can either get that or not.
When she asks for things that she actually needs, say she is thirsty and she asks for a bottle of water in the supermarket, or she does not have slippers for the summer, you point out that she needs these and you are meeting her needs. Of course, we should not do this as if sticking to her eyes, see how good parents we are, we are doing all this for you… That’s not the right attitude or even the reality of the matter. We are only teaching her the difference between needs and wants, AND that she has parents who will try their best to meet her needs, hence she can feel secure, loved, and taken-care-of.
Why do this? What is the point of differentiating between needs vs. wants?

Well, first of all, in today’s world, children AND adults are conditioned (by society, media, marketing techniques…) that they NEED that toy, they simply NEED that larger, more efficient food processor…etc. This is an economy that is driven by consumerism. They more we consume, the richer some guys get. The more we have to work (hence less time for family) to earn money, so we can buy more things.
Ironically, the more we work and become workaholics who spend 5/6 out of 7 days at work, deceiving ourself that we are working for our kids’ benefit (to give them better things, to pay for private school…), the less time we spend with our kids. The less time and energy we have for our family. Ultimately, we have more, and we are less happy. Nothing satisfies us. The more we acquire the more disappointed we are that it does not make us happier.
Kids who have everything, can never be satisfied with anything. Hence, they start notching it up more and more. The latest playstation did not work; let’s try a new mustang daddy. Oops, that is not enough either. How about these recreational drugs. I hear they make you really happy! How about risky relationships…. and the climb up continues until the final steep fall…
The only way to break the cycle is to put a halt to this cycle of consumerism (work-to buy-work more-to buy more…and so on). We really really do NOT need all this stuff.
We want to be happy. We need to be happy.
But ‘things’ are not going to make us happy.

When we build up their expectations for a new toy, we teach them ‘things’ make us happy, that’s what they should look forward to: If you behave well, I will buy you a lollipop or a new doll. Wait for your birthday and I will get you a big, new firetruck…
Instead, we can build their expectations for experiences: We are going to make a special camping trip for your birthday! If you finish your meal, I will teach you how to climb a tree! If you complete your homework, we will go out for a bike race! You can have a play-date with your friend Aisha, if you clean up your room…etc.
We can teach our kids the distinction between needs vs. wants only if we adhere to this life-view! If we buy whatever our whim desires, whenever it desires, then we have no shot at instilling these values in our children (nor should we be hypocritical and try). When we buy a new shirt because we truly need it, we must convey this to our kid, frame our purpose in needs vs. wants paradigm.
When we are at a store and she is interested in something, we pick it up and she plays with it while we are in there, and puts it back as we leave. This is working almost without any fuss because we have been doing this since she was a baby. Thank God that in the US, no one says anything when your kid plays with a toy in the store (elsewhere this would be inconceivable). Plus I know it for sure that if we were to purchase that toy, her fancy will fade away at most in two days. And we will left with more clutter in our home.
We constantly select toys that she is either too old for or she is bored with and she gives them as gifts to other kids or donates them. This way there is room for new things that she might need.
I love the motto of SIMPLICITY. A simple life – few chores to do, leaves so much time to do the great things that are important like spending quality time with family. A simple life – few things to buy, leaves so much room for a peaceful mind and serenity.


Source: thelittlemuslims.com

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

The Life of Ummu Sulaim ~ Rumaisah Radhiyallahu ‘Anha

The Life of Ummu Sulaim ~ Rumaisah Radhiyallahu ‘Anha
Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) and her family had the greatest love and concern for Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). It was on account of this love and concern for Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) that if they ever saw him in any difficulty, they immediately did whatever was in their ability to assist him and bring him comfort. 
Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) once said to Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha), “I heard the blessed voice of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and I perceived that it was weak from hunger. Do you have any food?” Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) replied in the affirmative and immediately picked up three loaves of barley bread. She then took her scarf and used part of it to wrap the bread, after which she thrust the bundle of wrapped bread beneath the clothing of Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu), and wrapped the remaining section of the scarf around Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) as a shawl. Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) was then sent to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) with the bread.
When Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) came to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), he found him seated in the musjid with the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum). As Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) drew closer and stood before them, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) asked, “Did Abu Talhah send you?” Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) replied, “Yes.” Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) next enquired, “Did he send you because of food?” Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) again responded, “Yes.” Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) thus turned to the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) around him and instructed them to stand and join him. They then set out for the home of Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu).
Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) went ahead of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) and reached Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) before they arrived at the home. He immediately told Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was on his way with a group of Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum). Hearing this, Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) became anxious and said to Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha), “O Ummu Rumaisah! Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has come with the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) and we do not have sufficient food to feed them!” Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) calmly replied, “Allah Ta‘ala and His Rasul (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) know best (i.e. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is aware of our circumstances and the amount of food that we have. Hence, he knows why he brought the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) to our home. There is thus no need for us to worry. We need to just trust in him).”
Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) thus went out of the home to receive Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). After meeting Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), they proceeded to the home of Abu Talhah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) and entered. As soon as Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) entered, he said to Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha), “O Ummu Rumaisah! Bring whatever food you have.” Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) thus presented the bread before Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) then instructed her to break the bread into pieces and pour ghee over the bread as gravy. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) thereafter recited whatever Allah Ta‘ala wished him to recite (and made du‘aa for barakah) and blew into the food.
Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) next instructed that the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) be called into the home to eat in groups of ten (due to the shortage of space). When the first group of ten had eaten to their fill, they left the home, allowing the next group to enter and eat. In this way, all the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) who had come with Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), who were approximately seventy or eighty in number, ate to their fill and left. After they had eaten, the food was still as it had initially been (i.e. it was no less in quantity). Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) thereafter ate with the family of Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha). Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) then shared the remaining food with her neighbours. (Saheeh Muslim #5316 and Takmilatu Fathil Mulhim vol. 4, pg. 39)

This was not the only instance of Ummu Rumaisah’s (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) generosity and concern for Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). When Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) made nikaah to Zainab (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha ), Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) prepared a dish of hais (a dish prepared from dates, cheese and ghee) and sent it to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). (Saheeh Bukhaari #5163)

Lessons:
1. Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha) and every other Sahaabi (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) had the greatest concern for the comfort and wellbeing of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). If they ever saw him undergoing any form of difficulty, they were prepared to sacrifice their very lives to try and alleviate his discomfort. In our era, it is the condition of the Ummah and their straying from the path of Deen and the sunnah that will cause the greatest discomfort to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). If we have true love for Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), we should bring complete Deen into our lives so that we cease bringing pain to his blessed heart.
2. A true Muslim is one who has concern for all his fellow Muslims. Hence, if we see any Muslim in need, we should hasten to assist them in whichever manner possible e.g. if there was a death in a certain home, we can assist them by sending food for them, as they may be too occupied to cook, etc.

3. The response of Ummu Rumaisah (Radhiyallahu ‘Anha), when she said, “Allah and his Rasul (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) know best”, was testament to her imaan and intelligence. She had total trust in Allah Ta‘ala and Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). We similarly need to trust in the teachings of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and firmly believe that our success, in this world and the next, lies solely in adhering to his blessed sunnah.

Monday, April 24, 2017

ZAYNAB BINT JAHSH

ZAYNAB BINT JAHSH

"It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed in a plain error." (The Qur'an, Surah al-Ahzab, 33:36)
This verse was revealed in connection with the marriage of Zaynab bint Jahsh and Zayd ibn al-Harithah which was arranged by the Prophet to show the egalitarian spirit of Islam. Zaynab at first was highly offended at the thought of marrying Zayd a former slave and refused to do so. The Prophet prevailed upon them both and they were married. The marriage however ended in divorce and Zaynab was eventually married to the Prophet himself. It is said that the Ansari girl read the verse to her parents and said: "I am satisfied and submit myself to whatever the Messenger of Allah deems good for me." The Prophet heard of her reaction and prayed for her: "O Lord, bestow good on her in abundance and make not her life one of toil and trouble." Among the Ansaar, it is said that there was not a more eligible bride than she. She was married by the Prophet to Julaybib and they lived together until he was killed.
And how was Julaybib killed? He went on an expedition with the Prophet, peace be upon him, and an encounter with some mushrikin (polytheists) ensued. When the battle was over, the Prophet asked his companions: "Have you lost anyone?" They replied giving the names of their relatives or close friends who were killed. He put the same questions to other companions and they also named the ones they had lost in the battle. Another group answered that they had lost no close relatives whereupon the Prophet said: "But I have lost Julaybib. Search for him in the battlefield." They searched and found him beside seven mushrikin whom he had struck before meeting his end. The Prophet stood up and went to the spot where Julaybib, his short and deformed companion, lay. He stood over him and said: "He killed seven and then was killed? This (man) is of me and I am of him." He repeated this two or three times. The Prophet then took him in his arms and it is said that he had no better bed besides the forearms of the Messenger of Allah. The Prophet then dug for him a grave and himself placed him in it. He did not wash him for martyrs and not washed before burial.
Julaybib and his wife are not usually among the Companions of the Prophet whose deeds are sung and whose exploits are recounted with reverence and admiration as they should be. But in the meagre facts that are known about them and which have here been recounted we see how humble human beings were given hope and dignity by the Prophet where once they was only despair and self-debasement. The attitude of the unknown and unnamed Ansari girl who readily agreed to be the wife of a physically unattractive man was an attitude which reflected a profound understanding of Islam. It reflected on her path the effacement of personal desires and preferences even when she could have counted on the support of her parents. It reflected on her part a total disregard for social pressures. It reflected above all a ready and implicit confidence in the wisdom and authority of the Prophet in submitting herself to whatever he deemed good. This is the attitude of the true believer.
In Julaybib, there is the example of a person who was almost regarded as a social outcast because of his appearance. Given help, confidence and encouragement by the noble Prophet, he was able to perform acts of courage and make the supreme sacrifice and deserve the commendation of the Prophet: "He is of me and I am of him."

Transcribed from: Da'wah Publications, Issue #7, July 2008

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

The Followers of Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam)



THE FOLLOWERS OF THE PROPHET’s (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) BLISS
By Sh Aa’idh Al-Qarni
 
Our Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) came to all people with a heavenly message. He was not driven by worldly ambitions, He had no treasure from which to spend, no splendid gardens from which to eat and no castle in which to live in.
Despite all of this, his loving followers pledged allegiance to him and remained steadfast. enduring a hard life full of difficulties. They were few and weak, always in fear of being uprooted by those surrounding them. and yet they loved the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) wholly and completely.
 
They were deprived of their homes, country, families and wealth. They were driven out from the playing fields of their childhood and from the homes in which they were raised. Despite all of this suffering they loved him unequivocally. The believers faced trials because of his message. The very ground under them was shaken violently. and yet their love for him continued to grow.
 
So, why did they love him and why were they so happy with him? Why did they forget the pain, the suffering and the hardship that resulted from following him?
 
To put it simply, he epitomized benevolence and righteousness. They perceived in him all the signs of truth and purity. He was a symbol for those who sought out higher things, With his tenderness he cooled the rancor from the hearts of the people, with words of truth he soothed their chests and with his message he filled their souls with peace.
 
Courtesy Radio Islam

Monday, February 13, 2017

Every Mum should read this!


Mummy’s boy, you are now a man.

Tomorrow you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. It will no longer be me but her. 

Love your new mum even more than you love me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you.

There was a day I was arguing with your father. We were screaming, Tempers were high. I was angry and He was angry. Then I called him an idiot! He was shocked. He looked at me asking how dare I call him that, immediately started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy, I called him all sort of name.

Guess what he did? He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. He just walked away, banging the door as he went out.

My Son, If your father had hit me and destroyed my eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today? How will you regard him as your father?

Would you have been proud of him or would you be blaming me for calling him names?
*Never hit your wife! No matter the provocation just walk away and things will be normal.

Whenever she offends you, think of this story I just told you, it could have been your mum!*
After he left, I was filled with guilt. We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day. 

I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his favourite food. After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger.

There is something very important you must always do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife. When she is under pressure, stand by her. If your friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see her as a Queen. Your Uncle, I mean Uncle Yusuf, never liked me. But your father was always supportive until his perception changed.

There was a day your Father was going to host the owner of his company and friends. They were three of them. That day I was in the kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks.
When the table was set and food was served. Everyone started eating. Then Iremembered I did not add salt in the food. I was embarrassed. 

Your father tasted the food and looked at me. He immediately turned to the guests. He told them that he instructed his wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking because of some problem with his body.

He said it in a funny way and everyone laughed! The guests understood and he asked me to bring salt and everyone added according to their taste. He managed to eat the food without salt.
After the guest left, he went on his knees and asked God to forgive him for lying.

Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t know what to say or do. Stand up and speak for her! Sometimes, read your wife and understand her. Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife. Beside your job, move around with her. If anyone invite you to his house and told you not to come with your wife then be very careful.

Use wisdom…I know you love mummy… I know you will tell me all your problems. But now things will be different. Let your wife be the first to know before me. Let her be the first to see before me. When you have problems with her don’t run to me immediately.  Wait for a day to pass and then talk to her about it. Pray about it.

Report her to nobody but talk issues out within yourself. Finally, don’t forget to come and visit me with your wife every month! I know you will have a happy home. 

You will always be mummy’s boy. 
Love Mummy
PS I did not write this, if any one knows who did please let me know so I can credit the author appropriately, plagiarism is an offense to any writer and I wish to give due where it is needed

 

Friday, February 10, 2017

Am I Losing Focus..?


Am I Losing Focus..?

The newly wed can't spend time away from each other...I remember the days I couldn't sleep if he wasn't home, I couldn't eat if he hadn't eaten...Even in a family gathering my heart wouldn't rest if i couldn't catch a glimpse of him...My husband was the centre of my world...

My happiness, my better half and then it all changed...Well, in a good way.

After a few years we were blessed with a beautiful baby. We were ecstatic! Our home was now warmer filled with giggles, lots more love and light...Oh, not forgetting late nights, diapers, sleepless nights, feeding through the night, needing a bath at 1am because you got spewed all over... and just as you were about to finally place your head down the sound of poop vibrated the cot next to you...

Yup motherhood is awesome but comes with the extra jihaad of self-subservience that comes so naturally Subhan'Allah... The initial days were tough. My world centred around my baby. Did I feed her? Is she ok? Does she need a change? Am I good enough? I have to do more... and then just as the days began to ease up, we were blessed with the shocking news of another baby... I was pregnant. ..AGAIN!

In so many ways do destiny took its cause and we were blessed with a baby girl... Shukr to Allah!

2 babies crying at night... 2 diapers to change... 2 small mouths to feed, 2 babies to care for to worry about... and yet I myself - am coming to terms with my bloated body... not bathing till 11pm... not cooking... not giving myself time...

I got many visitors who came to see mainly who the babies look like... then came along a good friend one day who spoke words hard to hear yet deep and so important. She too had babies although not as close as mines... yet she had her hands full non the less. She told me she did't realize it but through the months and years that passed she had invested her love and dedication to her girls... and as she was seated beside her husband and got up to tend to yet another chore, her husband sorrowfully mourned..."I don't matter anymore..."
 
At first I was annoyed with her advice and continued my way of a dedicated mum...but I didn't realize I had imprisoned myself between between my babies and just needing desperate sleep...I had indeed neglected my husband (not intentionally thought yet somehow I had)... My better half, My companion.

He was isolated coming home to a tired wife and leaving home from a tired wife... I didn't realize my neglect of him eventually made him neglectful to me too...

This is my message is for every mum out there... Allah (swt) gifts us our children however we should never forget the one who has more rights over us...Our Husband

  • Its tough in the start but how will he ever know if you dont sit with him and speak?
  • How will your husband be able to understand you without subtle  communication? 
When we complain about being tired, it tends to annoy them... Men tend to be sensitive to the complaining voice...

We lose ourselves in our duties but Allah (swt) has instructed our duties towards the husband... Not as an obligation nor a chore... but to maintain that muwadda and to protect that rahmah that Allah (swt) has blessed us.

Don't neglect your husband... even if its just a final cup of tea at the end of the day... or a light innocent conversation for at least half an hour each evening...

A walk in the garden holding hands or just sitting beside him thankfully and lovingly... To make him happy and to please our Creator.

Men can be our biggest babies and they will always need respect, time, love and attention. 

One day, the children will be grown up and we may be left alone with our faithful friend, Aameen...

 
We may get caught up in our work but they are still the same husband who still needs you... and you need him too. So build the relationship. Remember that happiness and joy comes only from our Creator
 
May Allah make us mindful of our Husbands - Aameen

Wednesday, February 08, 2017

Upon your Demise ~ Death A stark reality


The reality of death is that once you're gone people will mourn for a day or two.
Regardless of how much they loved you in your lifetime they will eventually move on with their own lives.
The loss they felt at your passing will eventually fade. You'll cease to occupy their endless thoughts and you will become but a memory.

They'll initially pray for you but in time they will think of you less and pray for you less until they cease praying for you; either through forgetfulness or through their own death.
We can't rely on others to be there to pray for us. We have no guarantee that anyone will be around to pray for us. That's why we need to do good deeds for ourselves. Whatever good you can do now, do it because in your grave you'll have only your deeds with you.

Like we make provisions when we go on a trip, so too should we make provisions for our ultimate trip. In our graves and in death we'll be alone and that is a reality.
May Allah (swt) make us mindful of our final destination, Aameen!

Monday, February 06, 2017

Etiquette of Visiting


As Salaamu Alaikum
Etiquette of Visiting
Visiting our fellow Muslim brothers and sisters when they are ill, in distress or after a tragedy is an excellent deed.

The Prophet said: "The dearest of people to Allah, may He be exalted, is the one who does most benefit to people, and the dearest of deeds to Allah, may He be exalted, is joy that you bring to a Muslim, or relieving him of distress, or paying off debt for him, or dispelling his hunger. And to walk with a brother to meet his needs is dearer to me than observing i‘tikaaf in this mosque – meaning the mosque of Madinah – for a month.”
(At-Tabaraani)

However there is a certain etiquette that we have to adhere to when visiting. Below listed are a few pertinent points to keep in mind:

*If the person is ill do not stay too long and be an inconvenience to them
*If they are sleeping don't wake them up, nor should you go into the room.
*Be patient if they take a while to open the door. Bear in mind that the females in the house probably walk around the house without their hijaab and need to put it on before they open the door. Also bear in mind that it sometimes takes a while to find the keys.
*If your host has served you refreshments do not refuse it. Someone went to the trouble of making tea/pouring juice and setting a plate for you.
*Don't ask nosy questions
*Don't make panchaat. Offer condolences, pray for the person and leave.
*If you are visiting the family of the deceased, pray for the deceased while there (make dhikr, read a para of Quraan, read a Yaseen, anything) don't just go there to eat
*How their house looks inside is not fodder for the panchaat (gossip) people. Understand that Allah has gifted/tested us all in different ways.
*If they serve you food don't sit and talk at the table, eat and get up so that others can too. Bear in mind that the family probably didn't eat yet and are probably hungry. It's not your kitchen table where you can converse long after you've eaten.
May Allah (swt) make us mindful of these etiquettes, Aameen

Friday, January 20, 2017

Fatimah Khanum


FATIMAH KHANUM

Seven centuries had passed since the Zubaydah canal which brought water to Makkah from outlying springs. The passage by now had reached a bad state of repair, with the wells and springs having dried up and the canal now being full of sand/stones.

It was 965 AH (1557 AD) when a Turkish princess Fatimah, daughter of the Uthami ruler Sultan Salim came along. She took the task to rebuild and redevelops the 'Zubaydah canal'. The rebuilding of the canal was extremely difficult ad involved Egyptian, Syrian and Yemeni engineers and masons.

On their route, there was a large rock 50 feet wide and 2000 feet long, which looked as if it was going to stop the efforts. The chief of the project lost his heart in fear of not being able to overcome it. Fatimah refused to accept that. In this time period dynamite didn’t exist, rather the only way to cut through such large rocks would be to heat them up with coal to high degrees and them to cut the stones with sharp tools. It took hundreds of workers, who burnt millions of tons of fuel. In 979 AH (1571 AD) the rock was conquered. Soon afterwards water again began to flow to Makkah on the repaired Zubaydah canal.

The event was celebrated with a great feast/party, which involved not only the everyday people but also the government officials. Due to her commitment to rebuilding the canal, Fatimah was nicknamed 'Zubaydah Thani' (Zubaydah the second).

(ref: 'Leading Ladies: who made a difference in the lives of others - Published by Idara Talifat e Ashrafia)