A letter from a Christian to
Muslim women
''...Most of us are not happy, trust me...''
By Joanna Francis
Writer, Journalist – USA
Between the Israeli assault on Lebanon and the Zionist "war on
terror," the Muslim world is now center stage in every American home. I
see the carnage, death and destruction that have befallen Lebanon, but I also
see something else: I see you. I can't help but notice that almost every woman
I see is carrying a baby or has children around her. I see that though they are
dressed modestly, their beauty still shines through. But it's not just outer
beauty that I notice.
I also notice that I feel something strange inside me: I feel envy. I feel
terrible for the horrible experiences and war crimes that the Lebanese people
have suffered, being targeted by our common enemy. But I can't help but admire your strength, your beauty, your
modesty, and most of all, your happiness.
Yes, it's strange, but it occurred to me that even under constant bombardment,
you still seemed happier than we are, because you were still living the natural
lives of women. The way women have always lived since the beginning of time. It
used to be that way in the West until the 1960s, when we were bombarded by the
same enemy. Only we were not bombarded with actual munitions, but with subtle
trickery and moral corruption.
Through Temptation
They bombarded us Americans from Hollywood, instead of from fighter jets or
with our own American-made tanks. They would like to bomb you in this way too,
after they've finished bombing the infrastructure of your countries. I do not
want this to happen to you. You will feel degraded, just like we do. You can
avoid this kind of bombing if you will kindly listen to those of us who have
already suffered serious casualties from their evil influence. Because everything you see coming out of
Hollywood is a pack of lies, a distortion of reality, smoke and mirrors. They
present casual sex as harmless recreation because they aim to destroy the moral
fabric of the societies into which they beam their poisonous programming. I beg
you not to drink their poison.
There is no antidote for it once you have consumed it. You may recover partially,
but you will never be the same. Better to avoid the poison altogether than to
try to heal from the damage it causes. They will try to tempt you with their
titillating movies and music videos, falsely portraying us American women as
happy and satisfied, proud of dressing like prostitutes, and content without
families. Most of us are
not happy, trust me. Millions of us are
on anti- depressant medication, hate our jobs, and cry at night over the men
who told us they loved us, then greedily used us and walked away. They would
like to destroy your families and convince you to have fewer children. They do
this by presenting marriage as a form of slavery, motherhood as a curse, and
being modest and pure as old-fashioned. They want you to cheapen yourself and
lose your faith. They are like the Serpent tempting Eve with the apple. Don't
bite.
Self-Value
I see you as precious gems, pure gold, or the "pearl of great value"
spoken of in the Bible (Matthew 13: 45). All women are pearls of great value,
but some of us have been deceived into doubting the value of our purity. Jesus
said: "Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast your pearls
before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend
you" (Matthew 7: 6).
Our pearls are priceless, but they convince us that they're cheap. But trust
me; there is no substitute for being able to look in the mirror and seeing
purity, innocence and self-respect staring back at you. The fashions coming out
of the Western sewer are designed to make you believe that your most valuable
asset is your sexuality. But your beautiful dresses and veils are actually
sexier than any Western fashion, because they cloak you in mystery and show
self-respect and confidence. A
woman's sexuality should be guarded from unworthy eyes, since it should be your
gift to the man who loves and respects you enough to marry you. And since your men are still manly warriors, they
deserve no less than your best. Our men don't even want purity anymore. They
don't recognize the pearl of great value, opting for the flashy rhinestone
instead.
Only to leave her too! Your most valuable assets are your inner beauty, your
innocence, and everything that makes you who you are. But I notice that some
Muslim women push the limit and try to be as Western as possible, even while
wearing a veil (with some of their hair showing). Why imitate women who already regret, or
will soon regret, their lost virtue? There
is no compensation for that loss. You are flawless diamonds. Don't let them trick
you into becoming rhinestones. Because everything you see in the fashion
magazines and on Western television is a lie. It is Satan's trap. It is fool's gold.
A Woman's Heart
I'll let you in on a little secret, just in case you're curious: pre- marital
sex is not even that great. We gave our bodies to the men we were in love with,
believing that that was the way to make them love us and want to marry us, just
as we had seen on television growing up. But without the security of marriage
and the sure knowledge that he will always stay with us, it's not even
enjoyable! That's the irony. It was just a waste. It leaves you in tears.
Speaking as one woman to another, I believe that you understand that already.
Because only a woman can truly understand what's in another woman's heart.
We really are all alike. Our race, religion or nationalities do not matter. A
woman's heart is the same everywhere. We love. That's what we do best. We
nurture our families and give comfort and strength to the men we love. But we
American women have been fooled into believing that we are happiest having
careers, our own homes in which to live alone, and freedom to give our love
away to whomever we choose. That is not freedom. And that is not love. Only in
the safe haven of marriage can a woman's body and heart be safe to love. Don't
settle for anything less. It's not worth it. You won't even like it and you'll
like yourself even less afterwards. Then he'll leave you.
Self-Denial
Sin never pays. It always cheats you. Even though I have reclaimed my honor,
there's still no substitute for having never been dishonored in the first
place. We Western women have
been brainwashed into thinking that you Muslim women are oppressed. But truly,
we are the ones who are oppressed; slaves to fashions that degrade us, obsessed
with our weight, begging for love from men who do not want to grow up. Deep down inside, we know that we have been cheated.
We secretly admire and envy you, although some of us will not admit it. Please
do not look down on us or think that we like things the way they are. It's not
our fault. Most of us did not have fathers to protect us when we were young
because our families have been destroyed. You know who is behind this plot.
Don't be fooled, my sisters. Don't let them get you too. Stay innocent and
pure. We Christian women need to see what life is really supposed to be like
for women. We need you to set the example for us, because we are lost. Hold
onto your purity. Remember: you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube. So
guard your "toothpaste" carefully!
I hope you receive this advice in the spirit in which it is intended: the
spirit of friendship, respect, and admiration.
From your Christian sister with love.
She replied with confidence : you tell me : why would I have a bf ?!
I guess you have no answer for my question, but I have answers for yours :
First, I am a believer, I can’t do what displease my Creator, HE ordered me not to to take a bf so I should obey HIM.
Allah says in Qur’an: “nor those who take [secret] lovers. “(surat Al-Nisa-25)
Second, I am a daughter of a man who raised me to be a chaste woman, I am a sister of a man who is proud of my purity, so I don’t want to disappoint them, and most of all I don’t want to disappoint a third man who is my future husband and the father of my children in shaa Allah, because I am preserving myself to him only
My mom raised me to be a righteous woman so that I deserve a righteous man she never raised me to be a toy in any boy’s hand, but she raised me to complete the Deen of a pious man.
Also, I am not an easy girl who would be impressed with sweet love words, but I am a proud Muslimah who is just like a pearl in its shell no one can touch it but a brave man who would value it and cherish its beauty…
Dear Muslimahs…Know your worth! and Be that One In Million who love to have the love of Their Lord than the love of a boyfriend!!!
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