What is Romance

A bachelor once asked imam al-ghazali, : which should I choose: marriage or total devotion to God?,
"BOTH" he replied.

"The world is a provision, and the best of the provisions of this world is a righteous wife" (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
Sayyidina Ibn Abbas ( رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ) narrates that Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) said:
“There is nothing that creates more love than marriage” (Sunan Ibn Majah)

Yes, we don't understand what is love and what is romance, when Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) explicitly showed us.

 Romance is the manner in which Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) stood in front of young Ayesha ( رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا) so that his Mubarak body shielded her and she could watch the sword fights and wrestling.

 Romance is the manner in which Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) turned the glass to drink from the side that Ayesha ( رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا) drank from.

 Romance is the manner in which Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) covered Safiyyah( رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا) when they fell from the camel on the way home after marrying her.

 Romance is the manner in which Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) chanted “Zammiloonee, Dathhiroonee” and his wife Khadija( رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا) lovingly covered him(صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ), supporting him.

 Romance is the manner in which Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) used to lie in the laps of his wives.

 Romance is the manner in which Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) used to joke and play games and have races with his wives.

 Romance is the manner in which Rasulullah (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) used to lie with his wives for a little while before standing up for tahajjud.

We don't know romance, but we learn it from his Mubarak life. إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ we will implement it in our lives and be good to our spouses.
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