Have I Given Up as a Parent?

Have I Given Up as a Parent?

 

Many parents nowadays have a common concern & complaint - they cannot speak to their children anymore. If they do try to speak to them, it ends up in a fight or argument. Thus most parents today have simply given up. However to “give up” is to abandon one’s duty & responsibility as a parent. To make an effort on our child is our duty. This is within our control. However the fruits of our efforts, that the child becomes rightly guided, depends on the command of اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala. & this is definitely not within our control.

 

Since we have become so absorbed in wanting to see the fruits of our efforts, we have as a result given up the effort itself which was within our control.

 

We must continue to encourage &  advise our children. We should also constantly make duaa  for them & beseech اللَّهُ Subhana T'ala thus:

 

“Oh Allah Ta’ala, You alone can guide & safeguard my child against the trials & challenges of the day.”

 

Let us be positive by looking at the power of اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala & not be negative by looking at our own weaknesses.

 

May اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala guide our children on the Siraatul Mustaqeem & help us as parents to bring up our kids on Quraan & Sunnah.  

 

DUA FOR OUR CHILDREN & SPOUSES 

 

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

 

Rabbana Hablana min azwaajina wa zurriy-yatina, qurrata ‘a'- yunin waj alna lil-muttaqeena Imaama  

 

Translation: O my Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous [Qur'aan 25:74]