The Beloved Children of Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi
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The Beloved Children of Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi
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(Ummu
Kulthoom, the daughter of Faatimah [radhiyallahu ‘anhuma] – Part Three)
Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu
‘anha) once handed perfume, drinking utensils and small vanity cases to a
messenger, without the knowledge of ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu), and asked him
to deliver it to the Queen of Rome. On receiving the gifts, the Queen
gathered the women of her court and announced, “These gifts are from the
Queen of the Arabs who is the daughter of their Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi
wasallam).” She then replied to the gesture by sending gifts of her own –
among which was a stunning necklace – to Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu ‘anha).
When the messenger arrived in the presence of ‘Umar
(radhiyallahu ‘anhu) bearing the gifts sent by the Roman Queen, ‘Umar
(radhiyallahu ‘anhu) came to know of what had transpired and thus immediately
called up a council meeting announcing, “Verily
there will be no good in any of my matters if they are decided without
consultation (mashurah). Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu
‘anha) sent gifts to the Roman Queen due to which the Roman Queen, in return,
sent her gifts. Advise me as to what should be done.” When they heard
the situation, they all expressed the opinion that the gifts sent by the
Roman Queen rightfully belonged to Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu ‘anha).
‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu),
however, was not satisfied. He objected and said, “What about the messenger
she used? He is employed and paid by the Muslims (it was not correct for her
to use the messenger for her personal errand).” ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu)
therefore had all the gifts deposited into the public treasury and only gave
Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu ‘anha) the amount of wealth that she had given
the Roman Queen. (Tareekh Tabari vol. 5, pg. 259)
Lessons:
1. Being the queen did not mean that she lived a life of
luxury and opulence. Rather,
the privilege of being the wife of ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) came along with
the divorce of luxuries and accepting to lead a life of austerity and
abstinence.
2. When the husband corrects his wife, she should accept the
rectification and comply instead of complaining and becoming upset. She should understand that he wants her to improve only because
he wants the best for her.
(to be continued
insha-Allah)
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Rules of a Muslim Home (#10) - Kindness to One's Neighbour (Part One)
Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi
wasallam) had once mentioned: “Jibreel (‘alaihis salaam) has been repeatedly
stressing upon me the rights of the neighbour to such an extent that I
thought the neighbour would soon be made to inherit in one’s estate.” (Saheeh
Bukhaari #6014)
Once the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu
‘anhum) enquired from Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam): “What are the
rights of the neighbour?” He (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) replied:
1. Give him a loan if he seeks a
loan.
2. Assist him when he asks for
assistance.
3. Visit him when he is ill.
4. Help him if he is needy.
5. Give him financial assistance
if he is poor.
6. Congratulate him on happy
occasions.
7. Console him in adversity.
8. Accompany his funeral when he
dies.
9. Do not build your house
higher than his without his permission lest his ventilation may be
obstructed.
10. Do not inconvenience him
with the fragrance of your food unless you share some with him.
11. If you buy fruit, send some
for him. If you cannot do so, take the fruit into your house concealed so
that he cannot see it. Do not allow your children to take it out and eat
openly in case his children see it and become grieved. (Fathul Baari vol. 10,
pg. 547)
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Every young girl longs and makes du‘aa for the day she’ll
receive a good proposal. Imagine
a girl who is proposed for by not only the ruler of the time, but a ruler who
is also, without a doubt, the second best person to walk the surface of this
earth after the Ambiyaa (‘alaihimus salaam).
During his rule, ‘Umar
(radhiyallahu ‘anhu) requested ‘Ali (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) to give him the hand
of his daughter, Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu ‘anha), in marriage. ‘Ali
(radhiyallahu ‘anhu) initially declined and excused himself saying that he
had reserved his daughters for the sons of his brother, Ja’far (radhiyallahu
‘anhu). ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu), however, pleaded with him and explained
that there was no one who would appreciate and value her nobility as much as
he would. ‘Ali (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) therefore agreed and the nikaah was
performed.
After the nikaah, ‘Umar
(radhiyallahu ‘anhu) went to a group of Muhaajireen and exclaimed in
excitement, “Congratulate me!” They congratulated him and asked, “Who have
you married?” He replied, “The daughter of ‘Ali (radhiyallahu ‘anhu). I had
heard Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) saying, ‘Every relationship
will be severed (will be of no avail) on the Day of Qiyaamah besides my
relationship.’ I had given my daughter (Hafsah [radhiyallahu ‘anha]) in
marriage to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and so I wished to take
one of his family in my marriage.” (Al-Isaabah vol. 8, pg. 465)
Lessons:
1. Although the main reason for her receiving this excellent
proposal was her being the grand-daughter of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi
wasallam), which is not something that is within a person’s choice, we definitely have the choice of acquiring praise worthy
qualities and habits that will be a reason for us receiving good proposals as
well.
2. Very often, a bad picture is
painted regarding the relationship between ‘Umar and ‘Ali (radhiyallahu
‘anhuma) in an attempt to show that they were enemies who hated one another.
The logical answer is that if ‘Ali (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) regarded ‘Umar
(radhiyallahu ‘anhu) to be his arch enemy, would he have ever handed his young
daughter to him in marriage?
(to be continued
insha-Allah)
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