Ummi

Take two minutes out of your time...

Imagine your mum was on the silver bed that they wash dead bodies upon... You make wudhu upon her and then start to wash her hair, you run your hand through her greyed hair, you remember the times she would ask you if she looked nice in what she was wearing, you remember how sweet she was and how beautiful she was in her youth, you realise this will be the last time you touch your mother in this dunya, you lift her left side over and it strikes you that she can no longer wash her own self although she was the one who used to wash you, you pour the water over her body and start to remember the times she used to wash you and clothe you and feed you and stay up at night by your side worried about you, a young girl/boy or grown man/grown woman she treated you the same, her beloved daughter/son who she would give up her world for, you take a look at her face and wish she would smile at you one last time, you realise the small things you took for granted, you remember the jokes that you used to use to make her laugh and the things that you said to please her...

You begin to shroud her body and its time to cover her face.....

You ask for one last chance to look at her beauty and kiss her upon her forehead, you shroud her and will never see her again in this life...

Upon your shoulder she is carried just as upon hers she used to carry you, no more playing, laughing, giggling, joking.. pain and crying as you carry the most important woman in your life out of your life...

You bury her and as you walk away you begin to remember the things you did that hurt her, Those words you said that she would overlook but you know bought her pain, you think about the times you chose your friends over her, your wife over her, a program you preferred to watch over her, you begin to realise you were a daughter/son that she deserved more from, you wish for one moment to hug her and tell her how sorry you are and tell her how much you appreciate her...

It's too late...

Her bed is the dust and her questioning will begin... If only you made use of your time with her before her time came to an end....

That day is coming soon ya ikhwa wa akhawat (O bros and sisters)

don't let it be a time of regret and remorse...A MOTHER IS SPECIAL
May الله سبحانه وتعالى grant all our beloved mothers who have passed away the highest stages in Jannatul Firdose إنشاء الله. ..آمين

"Don't let your victories go to your head and don't let your failures get to your heart..remember with the help of Allah YOU CAN DO IT InshaAllah

Surah Zumar (the groups)

بِسْمِ اللّهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ

السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ 

 

39|70|And each person will be paid in full of what he did; and He is Best Aware of what they do.

 

39|71|And those who disbelieved will be driven to Hell in groups, till, when they reach it, the gates thereof will be opened (suddenly like a prison at the arrival of the prisoners). And its keepers will say, "Did not the Messengers come to you from yourselves, reciting to you the Verses of your Lord, and warning you of the Meeting of this Day of yours?" They will say: "Yes, but the Word of torment has been justified against the disbelieves!"

 

39|72|It will be said (to them): "Enter you the gates of Hell, to abide therein. And (indeed) what an evil abode of the arrogant!"

 

39|73|And those who kept their duty to their Lord will be led to Paradise in groups, till, when they reach it, and its gates will be opened (before their arrival for their reception) and its keepers will say: Salamun 'Alaikum (peace be upon you)! You have done well, so enter here to abide therein."

 

39|74|And they will say: "All the praises and thanks be to Allah Who has fulfilled His Promise to us and has made us inherit (this) land. We can dwell in Paradise where we will; how excellent a reward for the (pious good) workers!"

 

39|75|And you will see the angels surrounding the Throne (of Allah) from all round, glorifying the praises of their Lord (Allah). And they (all the creatures) will be judged with truth, and it will be said. All the praises and thanks be to Allah, the Lord of the 'Alamin (mankind, jinns and all that exists).

Surah Zumar (the groups)

Have I Given Up as a Parent?

Have I Given Up as a Parent?

 

Many parents nowadays have a common concern & complaint - they cannot speak to their children anymore. If they do try to speak to them, it ends up in a fight or argument. Thus most parents today have simply given up. However to “give up” is to abandon one’s duty & responsibility as a parent. To make an effort on our child is our duty. This is within our control. However the fruits of our efforts, that the child becomes rightly guided, depends on the command of اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala. & this is definitely not within our control.

 

Since we have become so absorbed in wanting to see the fruits of our efforts, we have as a result given up the effort itself which was within our control.

 

We must continue to encourage &  advise our children. We should also constantly make duaa  for them & beseech اللَّهُ Subhana T'ala thus:

 

“Oh Allah Ta’ala, You alone can guide & safeguard my child against the trials & challenges of the day.”

 

Let us be positive by looking at the power of اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala & not be negative by looking at our own weaknesses.

 

May اللَّهُ Subhana Ta'ala guide our children on the Siraatul Mustaqeem & help us as parents to bring up our kids on Quraan & Sunnah.  

 

DUA FOR OUR CHILDREN & SPOUSES 

 

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

 

Rabbana Hablana min azwaajina wa zurriy-yatina, qurrata ‘a'- yunin waj alna lil-muttaqeena Imaama  

 

Translation: O my Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous [Qur'aan 25:74]

Islam & Women

In the time before Muhammad ﷺ received revelation and subsequently declared a prophet of Allāh, the Arabs were a wretched people. Out of the many evils they would perpetrate, one was to severely mistreat women.

To them, a female was a liability, a burden, a commodity, and bad news. Allāh mentions regarding the Arabs of that era:

(وَإِذَا بُشِّرَ أَحَدُهُمْ بِالْأُنْثَىٰ ظَلَّ وَجْهُهُ مُسْوَدًّا وَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ) (يَتَوَارَىٰ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ مِنْ سُوءِ مَا بُشِّرَ بِهِ ۚ أَيُمْسِكُهُ عَلَىٰ هُونٍ أَمْ يَدُسُّهُ فِي التُّرَابِ ۗ أَلَا سَاءَ مَا يَحْكُمُونَ)

When one of them is given the good news of a female child, his face becomes gloomy and he is choked with grief. He hides himself from people because of the (self-presumed) bad news given to him (and wonders): Shall he keep it despite the disgrace (he will face in the society), or put it away into the dust? In fact, evil is what they decide. (16:58-59)

 Not to mention how they would treat widows and their divorcees (gruesome details).

Islām then came and changed the whole concept of these people, elevating the woman, giving her the right to live, be nurtured, cared for, sustained, respected and honoured by every male she encountered in her life.

Islām taught the fathers virtue in bringing up their daughters well:

Anas ibn Mālik رضي الله عنه narrates that the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said, “Whoever brings up two daughters well until they mature, I and he shall come on the Day of Judgement [and he ﷺ then gestured by holding two of his fingers].” (Muslim)

It taught the husbands to treat their wives well:

‘Ā’ishah رضي الله عنها narrates that the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said, “The best amongst you are those who are the best [mannered] to your household, and I am the best among you to the members of my household…” (At-Tirmidhī)

It taught the children that their mother was to be obeyed the most after Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ, and that paradise lay in her service.

It also taught the nephews and nieces that the aunt held the same rank as the mother.

Islām also obligated that close female relatives to the deceased be given a share of the estate, when previously this had been unheard of.

Not only that, Islām advised the men to lower their gazes and not lustfully stare at the women:

قُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ يَغُضُّواْ مِنۡ أَبۡصَـٰرِهِمۡ وَيَحۡفَظُواْ فُرُوجَهُمۡ‌ۚ ذَٲلِكَ أَزۡكَىٰ لَهُمۡ‌ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِيرُۢ بِمَا يَصۡنَعُونَ

‘Tell the believing men that they must lower their gazes and guard their private parts; it is more decent for them. Surely Allāh is All-Aware of what they do.’ (24:30)

 In his speech at the farewell Hajj, which arguably had the largest audience in his life, the Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم made a plea to the men, emphasising the importance of giving women their rights, and treating them well.

In conclusion, Islām gave rights to women, at a time when they were regarded as the scum of the society. Unfortunately, it is these very teachings that many non-Muslims, and Muslim women alike, are unaware of or misunderstand. Let not your ignorance of Islām and its teachings drive you away from it; rather, draw nearer to it in trying to understand its beauty. Let us men, also value these teachings, and treat our women the way they deserve to be treated, in light of the teachings of Islām.

Sublime Conduct Of Nabi صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ - Sunna

Sunnah's of eating

 🌿NABI صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said "washing the hands before and after meals repels poverty and it is the sunnah of all the Ambiya Alayhimus Salam"

🌿NABI صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said "if a man enters his home, and takes the name of ALLAH and partakes of his meal after taking the name of ALLAH, then shaytan says to his companions," There is no sleeping place nor any food for you here."

🌿NABI صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said "Take the name of ALLAH, eat with the right hand and eat the food that is directly in front of you."

🌿NABI صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said " The utensil of the person who cleans it thoroughly supplicates saying," O ALLAH! Save him from the fire of Jahannum as he saved me from shaytan"

Note: The utensil is sinless and its supplication will definitely be accepted. (According to a verse in the Quraan Majid, ALLAH ta'ala declares that every creation of His glorifies Him in a manner that is imperceptible to humans. Thus, it's seeking forgiveness on behalf of such people is justified through this verse.)

(Sublime Conduct Of Nabi صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ vol 1)

I wish that you knew.....

Recently I've just been hearing about the moral degeneration of our society and how many of the things we do or believe stem from ignorance. So I thought I'd pen down all the things I wish people knew. Dont just read this but ponder over it too. Please share with your loved ones, friends, contacts etc not because I want everyone to read my writing but because I wish they knew too...

I wish you knew that rizq is predetermined by Allah so that you would stop chasing wealth.

I wish you knew that haraam relationships can never lead to happiness and bliss.

I wish you knew the sweetness of waiting rather than engaging in zina before marriage.

I wish you knew that you should hide your sins for Allah dislikes us broadcasting our sins.

I wish that you knew that it's NOT ok to watch 50 shades of grey.

I wish that you knew that giving in charity does not diminish your funds, it earns you good deeds which is the currency of the hereafter.

I wish you knew the importance of bringing your children up with good morals and values and not letting them run wild.

I wish that you knew that your success and your wealth are not a direct result of how hard you work or what degree you have, it is a blessing bestowed on you by Allah. If He willed you could lose it in an instant.

I wish that you knew that intentionally missing a salaah can leave you out of the fold of Islam, so that you would not let them pile up.

I wish that you knew how privileged you are and how badly people out there suffer.

I wish that you knew that when you leave the house without a scarf on you are no longer safe from Allah's punishment.

I wish that you knew that peace is to be found in the remembrance of Allah.

I wish that you knew that trials and hardships don't mean that Allah doesnt love you or listen to you, instead they are tests from Allah that are meant to purge you of your sins.

I wish that you knew that the harder your test, the greater Allah's love is for you.

I wish that you knew how music affects you, how it hardens your heart and how dangerous it really is.

I wish that you knew that swearing does not make you cool, it earns you sins.

I wish that you knew that having a new car or a beautiful house don't mean that you're successful.

I wish that you knew that a man who has no protective jealousy over the women in his family and lets them leave the house displaying their beauty will never enter Jannah.

I wish that you knew that when people point out your wrongs and advise you to do good they're not judging you. They only want to help you.

I wish that you knew that money can't buy you Jannah.

I wish that you knew that you will leave behind all of your possessions and take only your deeds to the grave.

I wish that you knew that even if we were to bury you with all your wealth it would not benefit you.

I wish that you knew that the poor will enter Jannah before the rich do.

I wish that you knew that this world is temporary so you wouldn't get too comfortable here.

I wish that you knew that death does not discriminate against age, wealth, health or gender.

I wish that you knew how fortunate you are to be Muslim instead of adopting the lifestyle of the disbelievers.

I wish that you knew the beauty of Islam and the beauty behind Allah's commands.

I wish you knew the things I do and so much more....