The Vital First step to a Blissful Marriage
Rasoolullah (Sallahu Alayhi Wasallam) has stated: “Indeed the marriage that draws the greatest blessing is the marriage with the lightest expense.” (Musnad Ahmad)
At a time when marriages are dissolving like ice left in the sun, this Hadith provides substantial food for thought. In the life of a Muslim, Barakah (Divine Blessings) is crucial to our success. A marriage devoid of Barakah will inevitably fail. If the greatest of Barakah is to be found in the lightest of expenditure, then the opposite holds true, the greater the expense, the lesser the blessing.
The saying: “The ladder of success must be set upon something solid before you start to climb” provides us direction for every endeavour in life. Marriage is indeed one of the most challenging endeavours a person will undertake in life. What at one time was a bed of roses has, many a time, decayed into a nest of thorns. For us to protect and preserve this bed of roses, it is essential that we use every avenue to draw the mercy and blessing of Allah.
For how long will we continue to jeopardise the marriages of our children for the sake of public appearance? When the nikah ends in Talaaq and the daughter returns home in tears, then the thousands wasted to inflate the bubble of our egos will pop and the fall will be all the harder. Will we then only consider the words of Rasoolullah (Sallahu Alayhi Wasallam)?
Extravagance is something greatly detested by Allah Ta'ala. The statement of Quran: “The extravagant ones are the brothers of the devil” is not a trifling matter. It should be accorded its due respect by the heart that possesses Imaan. We waste and squander too much in an avenue where there is no need for extravagance.
“Simplicity is from Imaan” is one of the maxims of the Rasoolullah (Sallahu Alayhi Wasallam). It ought to have a place in the life of a Muslim. The greatest assets a person can possess are contentment and happiness. Minus that, life is bleak, miserable and depressing.
A thought-provoking incident points this out very clearly: The little girl says: “My mother always told me that happiness was the most important thing in life. When I went to school, they asked me to write down what I wanted to be in life. I wrote, “Happy.” They replied, “You haven't understood the question.” I replied, “You haven't understood life!”
When one embraces the way of Rasoolullah (Sallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and the simplicity of Rasoolullah (Sallahu Alayhi Wasallam)’s life, one will find this elusive treasure of happiness and contentment. The sure-fire method of success will always lie in the Sunnah of Allah's Beloved Rasoolullah (Sallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Embrace Rasoolullah (Sallahu Alayhi Wasallam)’s Sunnah and then see the bliss of marriage.