Cling to the feet of
your mother, for Paradise lies there
Haqqseeker
Let us for a while
turn the clock backwards to a point some 25 years back.
Time: 2.15 am
On an unpleasantly cold, mystifying
night the moon is sheltered by the murky looming clouds. The night’s
eerie silence is punctuated only by an occasional bark of a dog or by a
cacophony caused by two cats fighting.
Suddenly the oppressive regime of
the night is sharply interrupted by a very shrill scream…
And what happens next?
A woman suddenly gets up from her
deep slumber and throws her blanket aside…
Please do not take this to be the
beginning of a horror story or a thriller. This is the narration of a scene of
reality that you would witness in every home where there are babies. The scream
in this particular story is that of a baby boy and the woman who gets up
instantly on hearing this scream is none other than his mother. Like all other
infants this boy too has absolutely no sense of timing and neither is he
bothered about the fact that his mother badly needs a good night’s sleep after
a hard day’s work. The most amazing thing, however, is that the mother wakes up
from her sleep at such an odd hour, nurses her baby and attends to all his
needs, including changing his nappy, with all her heart and without even a sign
of irritation.
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And now, twenty five years later,
let us witness what transpires between the same boy and his mother.
Time: 10 pm
It is a very pleasant cloudless
night with the full moon radiating a soothing glow of light.
The young man and his wife are in
their bedroom. Both are engrossed in their Smartphones. Suddenly they hear the
gentle voice of the husband’s mother. She is calling her son from her bedroom
and her voice is reflecting pain. The man asks his wife to go and see why she
is calling. The wife refuses to go. She says she is busy chatting with her
friend in WhatsApp.
The man stands up and proceeds
towards his mother’s bedroom. Standing on the doorway, he says in an irritated
voice, “Mom, what is wrong? Why are you calling me? You know that
after a hard day’s work, this is the only time we get to relax.”
“I am sorry I could not help calling
you. I have an unbearable pain in my head and since your father is away, I was
wondering if you or your wife could massage my head.”
“But Mom, why don’t you take some
painkillers?” says the man.
“It’s okay, my love, don’t worry. Go
back to your room. I will manage somehow,” says the mother.
Narrated above is one of the scenes
taking place in many homes, with slight variations here and there. It is a pity
that the man in the above narration forgets that it is the same woman who, with
the grace of Allah, has brought him to this world after suffering all kinds of
pains and discomforts for more than nine long months; it is the same woman who
used to wake up at odd hours just to attend to his needs and to see that he
remained at ease, it is the same woman who fed him with her milk; it is the
same woman for whom he meant the entire world so much so that she was prepared
to suffer any kind of hardship just to see that her ‘bundle of joy’ was
happy and comfortable.
Allah, the most glorified, the most
high, has placed a unique and a very strong magnetic bond between the mother
and her baby. This is the relationship that, when felt to its deepest degree,
causes the mother to feel that the baby is a part of her. This feeling is so
strong that the mother feels complete when she is with her baby and incomplete
when they are apart.
The meaning of being a mother is
virtually endless. A mother is a protector, a guide and very close friend for
her child. A mother is a selfless, loving human who is ready to sacrifice many
of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother
works hard to make sure her child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and
abilities to make it as a competent human being. Being a mother is perhaps the
hardest, most rewarding job a woman will ever experience.
In Islam motherhood has been given a
very high status. Allah, the Most High, says in Noble Qur’an:
“We enjoined man to
treat his parents kindly. His mother bore him with hardship and delivered him
with hardship and his bearing and weaning are in thirty months…” (Qur’an 46:15)
The emphasis on obedience and
kindness to parents is of such a high and prior degree that the Qur’an couples
the sin of disobedience to parents to disobedience to Allah the Most High. It
is, in fact, likened to shirk (associating partners with Allah), hence the
Qur’an Majeed says in a number of places:
“Do not commit shirk
with Allah and be kind to parents…”
After
prohibiting shirk, the Qur’an prohibits disobedience to parents. A disobedient
child lives under Divine curse.
Between our two parents, our mother
has obviously been accorded a much higher status as we can see in the following
hadeeth:
Abu
Huraira reported: A man asked the Messenger of Allah, Allah’s peace and
blessings be upon him, “Who is most deserving of my good company?” The Prophet
said, “Your mother.” The man asked, “Then who?”
The Prophet said “Your mother.” The man asked
again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The
man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your father.” (Bukhārī, Muslim)
The golden pages of Islamic history
has a very inspiring example of a man called Owais Qarni who secured a very
high position after serving his mother.
‘Usair
Ibn ‘Amr relates that Umar Ibn Al-Khatab, Allah be pleased with him, whenever
reinforcement came from Yemen, would ask them whether ‘Uwais Ibn Amer was among
them.
This continued until he met ‘Uwais
Ibn Amer, Allah be pleased with him. He asked him are you ‘Uwais Ibn Amer?”
When he answered “Yes,” Umar asked him, “Are you from the tribe of Murad from
the clan of Qaran?” He answered “Yes.” Then he asked him, “Did you suffer from
leprosy and you were cured of it except for the spot as large as a dirham
(coin)?” He answered in the affirmative. Then he asked him “Do you have a
mother (who is still living)?” He also answered in the affirmative. Then Umar
said he had heard the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him, saying, “A man called ‘Uwais Ibn Amer
will come to you with reinforcements coming from Yemem. He is from Murad then from Qaran; he
used to suffer from leprosy but he was cured of it except for a spot as large
as a dirham;
he is benevolent with his mother; [he is so close to Allah that] if he swears,
Allah will fulfil his oath. If you can ask him to supplicate to Allah to forgive you,
do.” Umar asked him to supplicate to Allah to forgive him, and
‘Uwais Ibn Amer did. (Gardens
of the Virtuous complied by Al-Imam Al-Nawawi)
As long as your mother is around,
love her and serve her as much as you can. A time will come when your mother
will have gone very far from you and you will never be able see her even for a
moment.
In conclusion here is a hadeeth that
very appropriately illustrates the rightful status of a mother:
Mu’awiyah ibn Jahima reported:
Jahima came to the Prophet, Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him, and he
said, “O Messenger of Allah, I intend to
join the expedition and I seek your advice.” The Prophet said, “Do you have a
mother?” He said yes. The Prophet said, “Stay with her, for Paradise is beneath
her feet.” (Sunan
al-Nasā’ī 3104)
So revere your mother and cling to her feet, for Jannah lies
there!
May Allah grant my mum and all mums ease and ultimately Jannat-ul-Firdowse, Aameen!
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