Friday, May 22, 2009

A Touching Story...received from my Dad



Dearest Daughter

The following story was sent to me by my dad…it is a tad bit long, but the lesson learnt makes it worth the read. . .

The Daffodil Principle

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Ummi, you must come and see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Boston. Going and coming took most of a day - and I honestly did not have a free day until the following week.

"I will come next Tuesday," I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove the length of Route 91, continued on I-215, and finally turned onto Route 18 and began to drive up the mountain highway. The tops of the mountains were sheathed in clouds, and I had gone only a few miles when the road was completely covered with a wet, gray blanket of fog. I slowed to a crawl, my heart pounding. The road becomes narrow and winding toward the top of the mountain.

As I executed the hazardous turns at a snail's pace, I was praying to reach the turnoff at Blue Jay that would signify I had arrived. When I finally walked into Romaana’h’s house, I hugged and greeted my grandchildren I said, "Forget the daffodils, Romaana’h! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these darling children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!"

My daughter smiled calmly, "We drive in this all the time, Ummi."

"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears - and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.

"I was hoping you'd take me over to the garage to pick up my car. The mechanic just called, and they've finished repairing the engine," she answered.

"How far will we have to drive?" I asked cautiously.

"Just a few blocks," Romaana’h said cheerfully.

So we buckled up the children and went out to my car. "I'll drive," Romaana’h offered. "I'm used to this." We got into the car, and she began driving.

In a few minutes I was aware that we were back on the Rim-of-the-World Road heading over the top of the mountain. "Where are we going?" I exclaimed, distressed to be back on the mountain road in the fog. "This isn't the way to the garage!"

"We're going to my garage the long way," Romaana’h smiled, "by way of the daffodils."

" Romaana’h, I said sternly, trying to sound as if I was still the mother and in charge of the situation, "please turn around. There is nothing in the world that I want to see enough to drive on this road in this weather."

"It's all right, Ummi," She replied with a knowing grin. "I know what I'm doing. I promise, you will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."

And so my sweet, darling daughter who had never given me a minute of difficulty in her whole life was suddenly in charge - and she was kidnapping me! I couldn't believe it. Like it or not, I was on the way to see some ridiculous daffodils - driving through the thick, gray silence of the mist-wrapped mountaintop at what I thought was risk to life and limb. I muttered all the way. After about twenty minutes we turned onto a small gravel road that branched down into an oak-filled hollow on the side of the mountain. The fog had lifted a little, but the sky was lowering, gray and heavy with clouds. We parked in a small parking lot adjoining a little stone church. From our vantage point at the top of the mountain we could see beyond us, in the mist, the crests of the San Bernardino range like the dark, humped backs of a herd of elephants. Far below us the fog-shrouded valleys, hills, and flatlands stretched away to the desert.

On the far side of the Maasjid I saw a pine-needle-covered path, with towering evergreens and manzanita bushes and an inconspicuous, lettered sign "Daffodil Garden."

We each took a child's hand, and I followed Romaana’h down the path as it wound through the trees. The mountain sloped away from the side of the path in irregular dips, folds, and valleys, like a deeply creased skirt. Live oaks, mountain laurel, shrubs, and bushes clustered in the folds, and in the gray, drizzling air, the green foliage looked dark and monochromatic. I shivered. Then we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight, unexpectedly and completely splendid. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes where it had run into every crevice and over every rise. Even in the mist-filled air, the mountainside was radiant, clothed in massive drifts and waterfalls of daffodils. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow.

Each different-colored variety (I learned later that there were more than thirty-five varieties of daffodils in the vast display) was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue.

In the center of this incredible and dazzling display of gold, a great cascade of purple grape hyacinth flowed down like a waterfall of blossoms framed in its own rock-lined basin, weaving through the brilliant daffodils. A charming path wound throughout the garden. There were several resting stations, paved with stone and furnished with wooden benches and great tubs of coral and carmine tulips. As though this were not magnificent enough, Mother Nature had to add her own grace note - above the daffodils, a bevy of western bluebirds flitted and darted, flashing their brilliance. These charming little birds are the color of sapphires with breasts of magenta red. As they dance in the air, their colors are truly like jewels above the blowing, glowing daffodils. The effect was spectacular.

It did not matter that the sun was not shining. The brilliance of the daffodils was like the glow of the brightest sunlit day. Words, wonderful as they are, simply cannot describe the incredible beauty of that flower-bedecked mountain top. Five acres of flowers! (This too I discovered later when some of my questions were answered.) "But who has done this?" I asked Romaana’h. I was overflowing with gratitude that she brought me - even against my will. This was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

"Who?" I asked again, almost speechless with wonder, "And how, and why, and when?"

"It's just one woman," Romaana’h answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Romaana’h n pointed to a well-kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory.

We walked up to the house, my mind buzzing with questions. On the patio we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking" was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman, two hands, two feet, and very little brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1998."

There it was. The Daffodil Principle. . . For me that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than thirty-five years before, had begun - one bulb at a time - to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. One bulb at a time…There was no other way to do it. One bulb at a time. No shortcuts - simply loving the slow process of planting. Loving the work as it unfolded. Loving an achievement that grew so slowly and that bloomed for only three weeks of each year. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world. This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principle of celebration: learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time - often just one baby-step at a time - learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

" Romaana’h," I said that morning on the top of the mountain as we left the haven of daffodils, our minds and hearts still bathed and bemused by the splendors we had seen, "it's as though that remarkable woman has needle-pointed the earth! Decorated it. Just think of it, she planted every single bulb for more than thirty years. One bulb at a time! And that's the only way this garden could be created. Every individual bulb had to be planted. There was no way of short-circuiting that process. Five acres of blooms. That magnificent cascade of hyacinth! All, just one bulb at a time."

The thought of it filled my mind. I was suddenly overwhelmed with the implications of what I had seen. "It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Romaana’h. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"

My wise daughter put the car into gear and summed up the message of the day in her direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said with the same knowing smile she had worn for most of the morning. Oh, such profound wisdom!

It is pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson a celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use tomorrow?"

While this may seem rather odd coming from me, with nothing at all to do with Islam, I thought it apt to remind us of a valuable life lesson: That no matter what the goal/task at hand, or how great it may be, the important thing is to: (i) decide on the best action plan then (ii) take consistent action towards it, (iii) tweaking/adapting your plan along the way and life’s path.

Your goal may be as simple as to learn to recite the Qura’an or improve your Tajweed, or it may be as lofty as to constantly strive to improve yourself and draw closer to Allah (swt). You may be aspiring to study hifs (yet not even know the Arabic alphabet!), or to do tafseer of the Glorious Qura’an, or raise your children and live your life for Allah (swt) and according to Allah (swt’s) Deen . . . No matter what you long for, the principles remain the same . . . consistent effort will bring rewards . . . No, more likely than not, your dreams will not be realized over night. . . Yes, you will encounter challenges, storms that will threaten and even kill some of your daffodils, but what is important is NOT to focus on the negatives! Be grateful for the experience and remember that even if just one of your daffodils survives, if you’ve only learnt 1 new Dua’a, 1 new Surah for the day, or recited just one page of the Glorious Qura’an for the day, you’re that much richer for it! May the Almighty reward you abundantly for it

Tomorrow is another day, rich in possibility. If you remember to rise in the morning with gratitude to Allah (swt) in your heart and a positive attitude, you’ll find the strength to plant the next daffodil by doing what needs to be done. . . At the end of each new day, you’ll yet again be that much richer! Given time, our daily efforts will become habits which we’ll follow through on without much effort . . . So don’t let the sheer size/complexity of your goals/dreams rob you of your dream or hold you back nor discourage you. No matter how daunting or even unattainable they may seem, I’m sure there’s just 1 step (even if it’s just finding more info) that you can do right now. Find that step and DO IT! Then the next, and the next, and the next. . .

I make Dua’a that Allah (swt) guides and blesses us each and every day. May we learn and remember the value of the moment, and appreciate and invest it wisely. . . May we strive for Allah (swt) pleasure and closeness, beg of Allah (swt)’s mercy and forgiveness and remember Allah (swt) always with love and gratitude. Inshallah Aameen!

Jummah Mubarak! May we strive each day to plant our own special “daffodils” for the Aakirah!

With lots of love & my very best Dua’a always

Fi amaanillah - I leave you in the protection of Allah Ta’ala

Wasalaamu Alaykum Wa Raghmatullaahi Wa Barakaatu

1 comment:

AD said...

dad's always have something special to share :)